AUTHOR Carol Motolo recently released her second book Survivor‘s tales which explores the trends of domestic abuse in both men and women.
Motolo told the Express People that the book focuses on the bravery and ingenuity of victims of abuse while portraying it from the vantage point of the victims.
It shows how willing they are to empower each other knowing that no one outside their experiences can grasp the agony they alone.
She said the book speaks of the way victims build tunnels to escape from the war zone (abusive relationships) and how they do this in microscopic steps even if it takes them years or decades because that is the best they can do on their own.
“This book breaks down domestic abuse from the point of view of the victims,” Motolo said.
“It shows how much the victims of domestic abuse like violence are willing to empower each other knowing that no one outside their experiences can sustain the pain they face alone without aid.”
She said the combination of the research of Survivor’s tales focuses on abuse of both genders adding that they tried to break down unusual issues such as abuse of men by women.
“Abuse of men by women is a major discovery and the book shows what happens while also giving clarity and offering a new awareness of an issue that is commonly ignored and disregarded.”
Motolo said the abuse of men by women has the potential of becoming an instrument for measuring and defining partner abuse and in the book, she offers solutions to relieve the suffering and devastation that it causes.
She said she focused on the abuse of both genders but what will cajole most readers is the topic of abuse of men by women.
She further told the paper that the book points out that once the victim is free from his or her abuser, they must still deal with the aftermath of the abuse which can make them more vulnerable to other injurious personalities.
“After all, sharks smell plight better than most. They are always searching for the wounded among us. For example, in the book, the “victim who was raped sought psychological care, the therapist tried to convince her that she was also to blame for the relationship and what happened to her.”
She said having experienced what abuse sounds like and looks like the character knew from just one session that the therapist was harmful to her wellbeing and did not return for another session.
Motolo said once victims understand how to spot an abuser, they do their best to avoid persons with such traits.
She said if communities are eager to help a victim of domestic violence, they should pool resources for personal safety because leaving an abuser means forcing the victim them to give up control. She said it is often during this period that victims are harassed, stalked, threatened, attacked and murdered.
Motolo is a dynamic visionary who has a soft spot for youths who are going through depression, rape victims or those who have been molested and assaulted. She runs a nonprofit organisation called Carol Motolo Foundation where youths going through some of the bitter experiences are assisted and motivated.
The book can be ordered on her Facebook (Tasha Motolo) or at Lifestyle Bookstore at Pioneer Mall.